Here’s some quick advice that may be of benefit to you right now:

Things You Should Do


Listen – The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.


Stay CalmShe needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you, too.


Talk about itNot only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.


Gather all the factsGet accurate information on each of your options and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for both of you.


Express yourself honestlyIt’s normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.

Things You Should Not Do


Don’t bailThe more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.


Don’t pressure herApplying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.


Don’t forgetYou have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as sharing your thoughts.


Don’t ignore your own concerns and desiresDon’t tell her you’ll support her decision without being honest about your own feelings. She can feel abandoned and left to make the decision alone if you fail to be honest about your own concerns and desires.


guyClear your mind and listen to what she is saying. Try to understand her feelings. Gather information about the options available to her. Talk to family and friends you trust for support. We are here for you to provide caring, free and confidential help for you and your partner.

The first thing you need to do is find out that she is really pregnant and learn about your options. Hope Pregnancy Center provides confidential and free pregnancy testing services, along with many support services. We are here to help both of you come to an informed decision. To help show your support go with her for the pregnancy test appointment. If she truly is pregnant, then she is already being overwhelmed by hormone changes that can have a great effect on her. Having your support will reassure her that you care.

At Hope, we know you may have concerns of your own that you would like to talk through with another man. You can schedule an appointment to meet with a male Client Care Specialist on your own or when you accompany your partner for a pregnancy test.

Hope Pregnancy Center can help you in a variety of ways should she actually be pregnant. We offer classes on pregnancy, parenting and other practical topics as well as countless referrals to helpful organizations. We also assist with maternity clothes, baby furniture, diapers, baby food, etc. You won’t be alone in supporting her through this pregnancy.

Remember the decision is ultimately hers to make. You should be able to express your opinion but you should never force her into a decision.

Men, it’s time to stand up and take part in your pregnant partner’s life. She needs to know that you care and you are ready to walk through this with her.